There's a term in theater that describes the imaginary wall between the actors and the audience.  A typical proscenium stage (think your high school auditorium) has three sides (the left, right, and back), but the fourth side is open.  This is where the audience looks into the story.  There's not really a separation between the audience and the actors, but in theater, we silently agree to believe there is. Occasionally, a character breaks the fourth wall.  This means the character speaks directly [ continue reading ... ]

My title here has a double meaning.  One, I mean to represent the experience many single people have at weddings.  Two, I call this piece “a single voice” because it’s a perspective you rarely hear in an authentic way.  So much of what I have to say so many people have experienced, but it is taboo to voice it in a way that questions “tradition.” Before I begin, let me say that most of the single people I know are incredibly gracious and sacrificial in their attendance, support [ continue reading ... ]

I don't post recommended reads often, so you know when I do, I absolutely believe it is worth your time.  This piece by theologian Peter Enns is so clear and so needed to be said.  "10 Things I Wish Everyone Knew About the Bible" manages to concisely cover the most significant issues in our approach to the Bible, including, "The Bible doesn't answer all--or even most--of our questions," and, "The Bible doesn't give us permission to speak for God."  I'm excited to read his newest book, The Bible [ continue reading ... ]

I recently had the unusual and interesting opportunity to view and review the documentary Kidnapped for Christ, a narrative of a young evangelical film student's exploration of a Dominican Republic-based Christian center for teens with behavioral issues.  What she finds when she visits the camp is both disturbing and convicting.  Read my review for PRISM Magazine here. [ continue reading ... ]

Popular blogger Nish Weiseth recently released her first book, Speak: How Your Story Can Change the World.  In Speak, Weiseth beautifully describes how stories have the power to connect, communicate, and change--in ways our polarized culture can't.  I had the privilege of reading and reviewing Speak for PRISM Magazine.  You can read the review here. [ continue reading ... ]

Lately, it's struck a chord with me when I hear people thanking God.  I'm not referring to the secular use of "Thank God," when it's used more as a cultural expression than meaning to address a deity.  I'm referring to situations when people truly mean to thank the Christian God.  Isn't it good to be grateful and acknowledge the one "from whom all blessings flow?"  Why, then, has it begun to unsettle me? Honestly, I can't exactly pinpoint what bothers me about it.  So, instead of writing [ continue reading ... ]

First of all: I hope my writing is not [all] about me.  Whatever I write, I write in the belief (and often knowledge) that I am not the only one who feels or thinks a certain way.  I write both for the people who feel and think similarly and to honestly share a perspective with those who don't.  I usually don't want to--or feel it necessary to--state an explicit list of my general personal beliefs. However, I realize the popularity of my posts about one of my topics--singleness and marriage--has [ continue reading ... ]

A few months ago, my counselor suggested we try a different approach.  During that particular session, we were discussing an instance that brought on a familiar feeling of abandonment, coupled with the belief that I will always care more about other people than they care about me.  My counselor directed me to address an empty chair as though I were talking to myself.  When I sat in my normal chair, I had to speak about the positive possibilities; when I sat in the opposite chair, I would [ continue reading ... ]

Our lives are in a constant state of change.  At certain times we are more aware of this than others.  Some people seek change, while others avoid it.  I would suspect most of us fall somewhere between the two extremes.  Regardless, change almost always involves mixed emotions.  In a world of sound bytes, 140-character status updates, and the busy fly-by "How are you?" it can be difficult to find validation in acknowledging those emotions, much less make space to feel them. Change often [ continue reading ... ]

Sometimes, life is hard.  I'm not talking about specifics parts of life being difficult, I mean just living is hard sometimes.  Getting up.  Getting dressed.  Getting to work on time.  Exercising.  Eating well.  Interacting with people.  Cleaning up after yourself. Times when living is hard can be really frustrating.  There is so much more we need to do in a day than the basics I just listed above.  When it takes great effort and discipline to just get ready in the morning, it can [ continue reading ... ]